Keeping the flame alive on your wedding anniversary
Wedding anniversaries are special events. Especially those big
ones that mark 10th wedding anniversary, 20th, 30th, 40th, 50th
On that special day, you can take time off to reminisce the
past. You can take a look at your mementos starting from your
first date. Do dust off the photo album and go through pictures
of special occasions such as your wedding day or delivery of
your newborn child. You can play the video of your wedding day
or dress up in your wedding clothes. Maybe by now they are too
small or tight for you.
On this day, you stop and reflect the state of the union
between husband and wife. Then it hits you so hard that you have
actually spend so little time on your dear spouse. Why? We have
got to concentrate mind and soul on our careers and slog hard
from morning to night at the office. By the end of the day, both
partners are tired and too exhausted to talk to each other. Then
your attention of focus will be on your kids. You have to take
care of them play with them ,feed them, monitor them and
supervise them . You have to check whether they have eaten ,
bathed and done their homework.
Then you have to worry about finance . Whether you have enough
money to pay bills ranging from housing, car loans, groceries,
clothes, school fees, It's enough to kill the joy of marriage.
But on the other hand , you can reflect on the positive, such
as overcoming problems and obstacles through strength and
Both partners should share something in common. Shared
experiences makes a lot of difference. Here are a few
examples.Saving money to buy your first house. The two partners
deciding where to live, and what kind of house to live in.
The couple can find delight in sharing tasks together. I
remember taking care of my baby son. He would cry in the middle
of the night wanting either to change diapers or to be fed. We
would turn turns looking after baby. She would be tired after
attending to his night time needs after one or two days. I would
then take care of baby on the subsequent nights.
We go to church together to worship the Lord and it's such a
wonderful spiritual experience every Sunday. We also go to the
gym and workout together.
Both partners need to have same mindset or similar interest.
Both my wife and I enjoy going to the movies, love children and
What similar interest do you have as a couple ? Find out what
similar interest both of you have. Is it a particular kind of
food, movies, travels?
And when baby comes along , make sure you also have some time
to spend on your own. Ideally, you could get your parents or
parents in law to help take care of baby.
On this special day, take time to reflect what both of you
wanted to do together but never got down to doing it either due
to work or family commitments. Find out what he or she likes .
If she is fond of good food then bring her out for a good
scrumptious meal at a expensive restaurant . If she likes
shopping then bring her out to her favorite shopping mall and
help to buy
dresses and whatever she likes ( something like Richard Gere
bring Julia Roberts out in ' Pretty Woman' and deck out her in
designer fashion wear) She may like you to serenade to her with
a beautiful song or poem. Lastly, a bouquet of flowers work